I know many of you fight every day to make the world acknowledge you as the dads you are, rather than giving you the honorable but incorrect title of “mother.” My partner Charlie is a genderqueer butch dyke. He is my daughter’s father, and he is also the person who gave birth to her. I […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: After a couple of failed relationships over the last year, I’m back to online dating, but not […]
It’s not my job to guide my child when it comes to her gender—it’s my job to hold the space for my child to express her gender however she wants to, whether she ends up gender non-conforming or not. My youngest child, a 4-year-old, is really into tiny things lately. Beads and rocks are particular […]
We tried to love beyond gender, and hit the wall. On our first OKCupid-initiated date, Ryan* and I timidly gazed at each other across a cafe table, punctuating the silence with sips of lattes. But by the time the discussion escalated to our common childhood spiritual obsessions, it was as if we had known each […]
