When will more men step up to claim more responsibility at home? When the men who have already done so lead the way, says Hugo Schwyzer. After several weeks of discussion of Anne-Marie Slaughter’s Why Women Still Can’t Have it All, the focus has—belatedly—shifted to men. As Jessica Valenti wrote in The Nation, the “not […]
In response to Anne-Marie Slaughter’s Atlantic piece, Suzanne Turner asks: Does anyone else find the resounding silence from the guys in our lives deafening? I’ve been looking and looking for the dad’s voice—even, for goodness sakes, Anne-Marie Slaughter’s husband’s voice—in the epic dust up over the Atlantic Monthly cover story. It’s no surprise that bloggers […]
Lynn Beisner shares Joey’s trials at home, a resentful husband who says he’s tired of working for “the man” all day then coming home to work for “the wife.” Joey is one of several conservative men that I have been interviewing about how they interpret their role as father. “The real problem is The List!” […]
Lyla Cicero offers her fiery take on Anne-Marie Slaughter’s “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All.” Iceland, Germany, Japan, Malta, New Zealand, Latvia, Belarus, Moldova, Romania, Czhech Republic, Macedonia, Bosnia, Croatia, Ecuador, and a total of 178 countries have federally mandated paid maternity leave. Fifty of these countries offer leave to fathers. (Yes, they all […]
Hugo Schwyzer responds to Anne-Marie Slaughter’s recent Atlantic piece, “Why Women Still Can’t Have it All.” Like everyone else this month, I’ve been reading one of the great viral articles of the first half of 2012: Anne-Marie Slaughter’s Why Women Still Can’t Have it All. Loosely defined as a satisfying, lucrative career, a stable romantic […]
Hugo Schwyzer discusses how sex, class, and ethnicity influence how we argue. As anyone who’s ever been in a serious relationship can tell you, one near-certain source of conflict comes from the simple truth that thanks to our experiences, we all see the world slightly differently. That’s obvious enough. But do women’s experiences—as women—give them […]
People learn best by doing, so Lisa Levey challenges mothers to let the fathers of their children figure out parenting on their own terms, even if it means fumbling from time to time. As mothers, we know that the most powerful lessons our children learn often come about as a result of direct experience rather […]
Clarisse Thorn offers advice to people who are in a mixed-investment relationship—where one partner is more invested in the relationship’s success than the other. Have you ever been involved with someone you were totally into, who seemed much less interested than you did? Or have you ever been with someone who was way more into […]
Mothers aren’t always right. Lynn Beisner recalls an incident when a decision she made as a mother was wrong—very wrong—and her husband proved how skilled he was as a parent. Before the night of The Monsters Under the Bed Incident, which I will describe shortly, I believed that fathers were parents in name only. I […]
Hugo Schwyzer responds to a recent op-ed that attempts to assign blame for the growing number of women suffering from body image issues, and offers another source of their strife: male disengagement. The body image crisis is a perennial hot topic in women’s magazines, but in 2012, it’s getting global attention like never before. From […]
Lyla Cicero breaks down all those letters in the gender, sexual orientation, and sexuality spectrum, and even proposes adding a couple more letters to the already-lengthy acronym. People often ask me “what do all those letters stand for, anyway?” I’m not quite sure why they ask me, since most don’t know I belong in that […]
Ken Miller is a stay-at-home dad, and was unable to open a credit account at Target because he doesn’t have an income. So his wife had to open it for him. Has anyone heard of the Credit CARD Act of 2009? It’s a federal law, backed up by a number of regulations, that changed many things, […]
