I write a lot about my experiences with BDSM—that’s a 6-for-4 acronym that covers Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism. I have a fair amount of experience engaging in BDSM; I also have a fair amount of experience in the BDSM subculture. The subculture consists of meetup groups, educational workshops, dungeons where people practice BDSM, […]
This week’s roundup of our favorites from across the interwebs to help you make sense of men and women. 1. The Economics of Divorce by Matthew Yglesias of Slate.com analyzes the narrowing gap in income declines between men and women who split from their partners. 2. “Chelsea” Celebrates the Drunk Chick by Mary Elizabeth Williams […]
This originally appeared at The Mamafesto. Republished here with permission. One of the fun things about Facebook (you know, besides profile-stalking) is connecting with old friends. It’s especially neat when you find yourselves not only waxing nostalgic about the “good old times” (aka the ’90s), but when you can find some current common ground to […]
This week, we came across an article in Businessweek called Behind Every Great Woman by Carol Hymowitz. It explores the changing rules of many modern families—as more women earn high-level corporate roles, more husbands are staying home to raise their children. And since 23% of wives now out-earn their husbands, women now fill a (slight) […]
Sex work is a controversial and polarized topic, and there are many perspectives on it. My position is complex—but for me, when it comes to how we actually interact with sex workers, one important factor is whether or not they consent to and enjoy their jobs. I am absolutely in favor of giving better options […]
Mass media has trumpeted a market research study’s conclusion that young, single, childless, white women living in cities out-earn their male counterparts. Feminists would love to embrace the results, but, in fact, the analysis has many flaws, including the failure to account for educational differences. That hasn’t stopped The New York Times from characterizing this […]
This article originally appeared on The Good Men Project. Republished here with permission. Sarah Buttenwieser reminds us that you don’t have to purchase gender at the clothing or toy store–or as seen on TV. Practically from the moment I let anyone know I was pregnant with my first child—now 16—the very first question seemed to […]
This originally appeared on CharlieGlickman.com. Republished here with permission. One of the difficulties that those of us who are looking to challenge the Act Like a Man Box (see my post The Performance of Masculinity for an explanation of that, if you aren’t familiar with it) is that the Box itself gets in the way. […]
This article originally appeared on CharlieGlickman.com. Republished here with permission. I’ve been teaching workshops on male gender socialization for about 15 years or so. The foundation of my presentation is the Act Like a Man Box, which I learned about from Paul Kivel’s book, Men’s Work: How to Stop the Violence That Tears Our Lives […]
This piece was originally published on CitiScoop: The Insider’s Guide to Modern Parenting. Republished here with permission. I have been an at-home parent for the last six years, and during that time, I have struggled to find an identity beyond parenthood. There have been many stories in the press lately about work-life balance—usually about professionals […]
I have been an at-home dad for nine years. Or, at least I thought I had been. It turns out I may have been an at-home or stay-at-home dad (SAHD) for only four years. Most of the last nine years I may have been only a primary caregiver. Confused? Yeah, me too. The confusion lies […]
Do we actually believe that people can change? If so, how do we want them to show us they’ve changed? Is absolution possible? Who decides the answers to these questions? I very rarely weigh in on Internet Scandals. This is partly because I’ve got lots of stuff to write that I believe has longer-lasting value […]
