I’m more afraid of having a baby than I am sitting through a horror flick. And I’ve seen Carrie. On my 21st birthday I officially declared to my parents that I would never get married or have children. I’m now 39 and I’ve defiantly stuck to my guns. Amongst my friends, I feel like the adolescent […]
Now that I’ve had my hysterectomy, I’m not fighting my body every day. Now that I’ve come out, I’m not fighting my heart. When I was in middle school I told my friends that I never wanted to have kids. In high school I told my parents that all they’d ever get from me would […]
Not that I owe anyone an explanation… I haven’t, for even one moment in my life, wanted children. Yet, whenever I say that I do not want children, people usually give me something about not being ready or that it will happen eventually. For a while, I would just put my head down and say something along the lines […]
I refuse to accept that childbirth and child rearing is an inherent and integral part of womanhood. When you read this, I’m probably either getting ready to go to or am already at the hospital to get surgery. Yes, I’m getting my tubes tied today! I have been waiting for two years for this to […]
It may be a controversial decision, but choosing sterilization is as valid as choosing to carry a child to term. In Canada up until recently, there used to be rules in several provinces about when a woman could ask for sterilization. It usually involved her being over 40 years old, married and having had at […]
My reasons might be selfish and vain and drenched in fear, but they’re my reasons, and I’ve spent a great deal of time trying to understand them. I’m the first one to admit it—my maternal instinct was installed with faulty wiring. I was never one of those girls who imagined the day she’d become a […]
Sure, I have met some cool children over the course of my life, but deep down, I just know it’s not for me. What I am about to say may stun and horrify readers… I do not want children. Ever. I know some of you are probably wondering why I would deny myself the joys […]
It’s a choice everyone should be able to make for themselves, and to do so with no risk of being seen as irresponsible, immature, or unfulfilled. I do not have children nor do I ever want them. That is an unremarkable statement, and yet I continue to get confused and skeptical responses from many people to […]
