Children soak up these messages and learn to tie their worth to the values they espouse. Men go out into the world and have adventures while women are wise caregivers who always know where your soccer shoes are when you need them. It’s 6.30pm. The kids are in their high chairs and you’re trying to […]
For many mothers, our approach to sharing chores and childcare consists of doing the tasks ourselves, nagging our partner to do them, and then resenting that we are doing and nagging. That is a recipe for failure. Both men and women rank sharing household chores as the third most important ingredient in our recipe for a […]
The conversation about overworked mothers is not new. But what we don’t discuss as often is where—and how—to draw the line. And that nothing will change until we do. One of my favorite movie lines is from Star Trek: First Contact. Jean-Luc Picard is in the midst of a war with the Borg—who once abducted […]
It turns out that the strongest weapon in the fight to give girls equal rights is … a working mother. Years ago, when I was 36, I fell over, dropped like a dead weight for no reason at all. BOOM. At the hospital, they checked for everything (including HIV, as I had been working as […]
Confidence comes from knowing you can get shit done. When I was in my 20s, I lived alone in New York, in a tiny studio apartment. Aside from a few sporadic, months-long relationships, I was mostly single, so when things broke, I just took care of it. Of course, I could always call the super […]
This originally appeared on The Daily Life. Republished here with permission. If a man starts out believing that cooking, cleaning, and childcare is “women’s work,” then there’s little chance he will change his mind during the relationship. Remember that classic scene in When Harry Met Sally…where Meg Ryan’s Sally quizzes Billy Crystal’s Harry about his gender […]
