It is part of being a parent that we give a huge slice of ourselves away. It is part of being in a partnership that we bend and adapt. I have done both with great love. But now I am returning to an ownership of my own identity. Over the years I have grown my […]
How many fewer people of color would be killed at the hands of militarized, racist police if they had the ability to change their race in moments where they just walk down the street? White people are consistent; I’ll give them that. They take Black culture as the blueprint for their fashion, entertainment, music, and […]
Just like that, I found myself realizing I wasn’t nearly as straight as I thought I was. Sexuality is a topic that’s difficult to write about, for a lot of obvious reasons. Sexual identity is something that’s unique and personal to every human being, and as such, my experience is unlikely to mirror yours in […]
Coming out often means fielding really personal questions then being judged. It’s hard to describe the full impact of coming out to someone. Because of the positive mainstream media representation, the access to people’s experiences on the Internet, and the campaigning of activists in many places, the stigma of being gay has diminished. For this […]
Beyond its messed-up sexist roots, there are many more issues that come along with the assumption that a woman should take her husband’s last name. Many people take their spouse’s last name when they get married—and there isn’t anything wrong with making that choice if it’s the right one for you and your partner. Many […]
