In learning that I exist amongst a growing group of men who react to rejection with violence, it adds a new layer of perspective to shutting down strangers at a bar. Since the deadly terror attack in Toronto in April, I’ve become familiar with the deeply disturbing world of incels. These “involuntary celibates” are young […]
I was afraid, not necessarily of him in particular, but of men in general — of what men do when women disappoint them. When I was in high school, I broke up with a boy who later slit his wrists. After he cut himself, he decided to walk to my house, more than five country […]
We are hard-wired to think that we can change people who don’t love us back. The problem is that life isn’t really like that. There was a time when I was epically bad at dealing with unrequited love. It was my senior year of college and I had a crush on a friend of a […]
