By starting my days with a deliberate decision to focus on the person in front of me and not a screen, I set a new standard for what deserved my attention. Conferences can get expensive fast. There’s the cost of the conference registration itself, fees for any pre-conference activities, fees if you need to join […]
The inability to want sexual interaction, which seems like such a crucial part of things, could lead to the belief that love is out of reach. Let’s get some things out of the way before we dive into this, shall we? Asexuality is a concept that eludes a lot of people. There are many resources available to […]
I’m here to tell you that sometimes, you just need to climax. When one thinks about what a healthy sex life looks like, we often envision passion and spontaneity. While both of those things certainly can be an integral part of an intimate relationship, I don’t happen to think they are as necessary as the movies […]
As I stand there staring, I realize my mouth is actually watering—I’m a split second away from literally drooling over this guy. I don’t usually Tinder much when I come to the Mexican city my mother is from. It’s a small, everyone-knows-everyone kind of place. So I’m intrigued when I match with a blue-eyed, sandy-haired, […]
There can be no liberation for us if we’re not freed from the need to bend our souls’ natural urges for the false comfort of others. When I was young, I ate ravenously the fruits of the world — all poisoned and rotten as they were — and internalized the thirty-second soundbites of flashing screens, popular […]
Monogamist or polyamorist, you need to put in the work if you want your relationships to thrive and be a positive force in your life. Love is something that demands work. I’ve been polyamorous for about a year. Although I don’t quite consider myself an “expert” in polyamory, I have been thinking about this past […]
The narrative we’ve all been given—that sex is this way and this way only—isn’t particularly healthy for any of us. I’m not entirely sure where I first heard the term “outercourse,” but it seems pretty likely that it was in conjunction with a workshop at one of the many sex-positive events I love to attend. […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: My wife and I have been married for almost 10 years. Most of them have been happy, […]
When it came to showing my vulnerability, to being authentic, I chose to hide behind a great technique more often than I chose to show up. Months ago a friend posted the prompt: “I regret learning how to…” I wrote the first thing that came into my head: “I regret learning how to give world […]
When an 85-year-old resident spent the night with her boyfriend, her aides made her a Do Not Disturb sign. The Hebrew Home at Riverdale has been recognized as one of the best nursing homes in the country. The facility offers an on-site audiology clinic, 24-hour nursing care, occupational therapy, and more. Among the services offered […]
Sometimes, all it takes is a moment of true presence with another person for a profound shift to happen. The scene: mid-October, 2015, New York City. The World’s Largest Eye-Gazing Event. I’m a helper for the event, and I’m set up in Herald Square, in front of Macy’s. I carry a sign that reads: Where […]
I would like to say that “Sara now resides in Seattle with her amazing partner and is finally calm, cool, and collected” but that would be a lie. Using the word “anxiety” in any sort of diagnosis creates a visualization that is both immediately recognizable and simultaneously hated on. Everyone has anxiety, everyone goes through […]
