Why shouldn’t we have a say in what kind of care we received during this enormous transition? The first time my partner Charlie gave birth was in a hospital. He wanted a home birth, and we hired a skilled, compassionate midwife, someone who was affirming toward our queer family and Charlie’s identity as a transmasculine […]
My tiny but mighty family is beautiful—even if it doesn’t look like the others. A while back my son decided that he wanted to play soccer with a local parks and rec group. We packed his backpack with matching knee socks and the most adorable little shin guards I had ever seen. I stuck Rivi, […]
Childcare is an accessibility issue. It determines a parent’s – let’s be real, a mother’s – ability to exist in the world and participate in society. Every summer I volunteer for a week at a day camp where girls learn to play music. It’s a beautiful oasis of art and feminism and love and empowerment, […]
The oppressive dragon feminists need to slay is not just that a woman’s value lies solely in reproduction. We must also topple the idea that non-disabled, opposite sex, cisgendered married couples with children are the foundation of society. Role Reboot recently published an essay by Amy Monticello where the author argues for a woman’s right […]
Are people who support the rigid distinctions at these events worried that their child might suddenly “turn gay” upon seeing my family accepted at a school event? A few years ago I made a (mostly joking) Facebook post about the troubles of my son having two mamas on Mother’s Day. Who should get the single […]
Families are different and grow in lots of different ways. Children understand this intuitively. Highlights magazine had no idea the ire they would draw when they responded to a reader’s post on Facebook asking why their publications don’t depict any same-sex parents or visibly LGBTQ families. The magazine answered that although they value inclusivity, “the […]
Did you know that the baby you gave to my family would be born into the greatest love? For a long time, I believed this wasn’t my story. I started this letter to you a year ago, quietly and in my private journal. After all, I have two healthy sons with my husband through traditional […]
