New research shows it’s the woman with the higher libido more often than we think, but that there is a way to turn down sex without harming your union. “I’m horny” I playfully text my boyfriend. After about a minute, a wink face emerges on my screen. I get bolder, and send him a picture that leaves […]
You don’t have to just lay there and take it. When I was 15, I attempted to hang myself in my room. It didn’t work. Over the following seven years, I experienced some of the most incredible mood swings of my life. I would feel so happy, then, before anyone could pick it, I’d slump […]
Our assessment of power is itself deeply conditioned by all of the power structures that already exist. When I was 22 years old, deep in the psychological and spiritual work of confronting the most blatant instance of sexual abuse in my own life, I confessed to my counselor and spiritual director that I worried that […]
Female sexuality is often defined in terms of what men want. Sprout Pharmaceuticals is on the warpath. The pill company keeps applying, now for the third time, to authorize sales of a drug called flibanserin, which has been nicknamed “female Viagra,” but the FDA just keeps turning it down. Sprout would like you to believe it’s […]
The societal expectation that men seek out as many sexual encounters as possible is a huge motivating factor behind rape. This is a relatively sad story about why I left the hospitality industry. I say “relatively” sad because what drove me to stop working in restaurants was not an abusive experience. It wasn’t rape, nor do […]
New research says that conservative men stop having sex sooner than liberal men. Lynn Beisner says that’s because most conservative men make sex all about them. Last week we learned the results of a Harvard research study that tracked the lives of men who attended the university between 1939 and 1944. Many of the findings […]
