I always thought being married would make me happy. It didn’t. Now what? Ever since I was little, I’ve dreamed about being married. Maybe it’s because my mom leaned too much on me after her divorce, filling me up with stories about how all she’d ever wanted to be was a wife and mother, and […]
By framing ourselves as complete, we are able to frame alone time as positive rather than negative. My most recent ex had two roommates while we were dating. Though this was very different from my own situation, I enjoyed seeing them during weekends when I stayed at that house. I looked forward to when they […]
While I knew I was lucky to have everything I’d worked for—family, a new apartment, financial stability—I also knew that I had never felt so lonely. My phone buzzed. I looked down at the text message on the glowing blue screen. The words took a moment to sink in. It was like being back in middle school […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: When my wife and I found out we were pregnant last year, I was thrilled at the […]
Do you have a burning question about pregnancy, modern parenting or family life? Send it to Evie at AskEvieColumn@gmail.com or click here to submit your question anonymously. Dear Evie: I am a mom. I have a proper name, but I think I forgot it. Even my husband refers to me exclusively as “Mommy.” My day starts […]
What irks is not the pain of aloneness, but the perpetuation of the myth that being alone needs fixing and the only remedy is a romantic relationship. In the Boston Sheraton lobby, Kay, my married friend who has listened to my dating woes, reports back from a conversation with a much-admired single writer who admitted […]
This originally appeared on The Manifest-Station. Republished here with permission. I realized that I didn’t want a child for the rest of his or her life, I wanted a child to take away my loneliness, my emptiness…for a month or two. He was a spiritual advisor/therapist of sorts. More like a healer/shaman. I had known […]
