Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I’ve been dating my girlfriend for three years and we live together. We both have full-time jobs […]
I’m learning that real interdependence is the overflow of self-care. I love to love. For 33 years I had no idea what that really meant. I never had a high school boyfriend. I was 21 when I lost my virginity in a casual relationship. Then I dated a series of people who were basically un-reciprocating. […]
Countless couples have tackled the taboo subject of racy videos and illicit orgasms. What happens when it’s the woman who can’t stop watching? It’s past 2am and my husband’s breathing has become long and even. An opportunity presents itself. I slip my right hand down my pajama pants and move slowly, careful not to bump my […]
There is no methadone clinic for the loveless, no serotonin stand-in for the empty bed and the empty heart. Cocaine doesn’t mind that it’s a commodity. There is no dissenting portion of heroin that foresees its end, the using up of its chemical compounds, and the snuffing out of its selfness in its use. There’s […]
