I didn’t realize how much I valued my sexual attractiveness until it was “gone.” I’ve been mentoring a young woman in my industry (marketing and content writing). I’ve encouraged her to attend local networking events as a way to build connections and help her build her client base. I’ve been doing the same for years, […]
The Eye was so much more than a passive watcher. It was a pervasive social force with a destructive aim. But I wouldn’t fully understand this until, finally, I experienced life without it. The Eye started following me at puberty. It watched me from building sites and vehicles and outside pubs. Until seven months ago, its […]
I think she looks fabulous, but people sure have a lot of opinions about it. My 9-year-old daughter has never been shy about her preferences and opinions. Right before she began kindergarten, she asked if she could cut her hair short. Since then, it has varied in style, but has stayed pretty short. Over the […]
The female douchebag is not an urban legend or fabled archetype created by past scorned lovers. They do exist. I know this because I have been one. My douchebag flag was flying high the first time I tried to meet women out in the wilds of L.A. The maiden voyage to a WeHo gay club […]
The more I try to define the term, the more it slips from my grasp. It happened again. It happens about twice a year. I dreamt about the woman I was in love with a long time ago, a woman I now consider part of my inner circle, though we seldom talk, and I see […]
Any kind of societal or internalized conditioning that makes a woman feel ashamed about owning and embracing her sexuality has got to go. A few years ago I was asked to participate in a storytelling show. The piece I read was called “My Vibrator Story.” I had written it in a workshop and test read the […]
When I visited a nude beach, I realized the only person making me uncomfortable was me. I lifted my shirt over my head, took a deep breath, and pulled the strings of my bathing suit top loose. Immediately, my mind began to race. What if people stare at me? I wish I would’ve spent more […]
If my looks have begun declining, well, I haven’t really noticed. And if I haven’t noticed, should I really bother worrying that anyone else has? Men check out my dog more than me. I only wish I were kidding. I’ve gotten used to catching unexpected smiles creep onto strangers’ faces while gazing at Henny (why […]
Sure, it’s inclusive. But it still reduces women to their physical appearance. Well, we’ve finally done it. We’ve reached equal opportunity objectification for women! Many of my feminist friends understandably appreciated and shared: This article about now-elderly Playboy pin-up girls from decades ago showing they still have it. This article about a woman who paints nudes […]
