This week’s roundup of our favorites from across the interwebs to help you make sense of men and women. 1. ‘Roe’ Didn’t Incite The Culture Wars, And Neither Would A Supreme Court Ruling For Marriage Equality by Jill Filipovic of The Nation says the Supreme Court Justices should ask themselves: Does history look kindly upon […]
Lynn Beisner didn’t mean to teach her two kids that the only way to find security was in a relationship. The great thing about having adult children is that you not only get to worry about how you’re screwing them up now, but you also have front row seats to watch the results of how […]
Many polyamorous partnerships are deeply intimate, loving, meaningful relationships, so why aren’t they included in the marriage rights discussion? At this point in the same-sex marriage debate, everyone is familiar with the “slippery slope” argument relied on so often by conservatives: If we allow gay marriage, then soon we’ll be allowing groups of three or […]
Why does the media insist on turning recent marriage and childbirth data into a competition between men and women? It seems that my lady friend has higher class ambitions than I ever dared to guess. We met at the embarrassingly old age of 24, and three years later she has asked me to wait before […]
Marriage is not a cure-all for our social ills. So why do we obsess over it so much? Is there a marriage “crisis” in this country? As we wait for the Supreme Court to debate the future of single-sex marriage, it’s hard to miss the headlines speculating how much the institution of marriage is changing […]
Loving someone means accepting the parts of their past that have led them to you. A few years ago, when my younger stepdaughter Shiloh was around 5, we were in the midst of the usual pre-holiday cookie cutters excitement when she announced to her dad and me that all she wanted for Christmas was a […]
Delani Miner grew up with controlling parents, and eventually married (and divorced) a controlling man. Time can be a harsh mistress. Time is of the essence. Time can be on your side. You can get time off for good behavior. Sometimes you’re at the right place at the right time. You can have the time of […]
This was originally posted at The Feminine Mystique as part of the Last Name Project. Republished here with permission. I’m Abby, and my husband is Evan. We were both raised by liberal, progressive (but not activist) families with mothers and fathers who both worked full-time. While I don’t think either of us knew the word “feminist” […]
Lynn Beisner shares the marriage maintenance formula prescribed to her by a therapist, which includes fun, laughter, and the occasional vacation. This week, my husband Pete and I are on vacation. That might not seem like a radical thing to you, but for me it is an act of cultural disobedience. For starters, this […]
It’s only when crushes are forbidden that curiosity grows, leading to the development of romantic feelings or infidelity, says Amanda Goldberg. A few weeks ago, my husband James* and I were heading home after a friend’s birthday party. I had arrived to the party late, so on the post-party subway ride, James updated me on […]
Emilie Littlehales says the only way to combat the sexist tradition behind engagement rings is to strip them of their original meaning. The other day I had this conversation: “So…you’re engaged?” “Yep.” The question came out of nowhere, and I couldn’t help but wonder where this person—a co-worker—had gotten this information to begin with. For […]
This week’s roundup of our favorites from across the interwebs to help you make sense of men and women. 1. How Parenting Became A DIY Project by Emily Matchar of The Atlantic says from home birth to homemade baby food to homeschooling, raising kids is a way for parents to express their individuality. 2. Study: It […]
