Focused on a demanding career as an attorney and married to a man who refused to become the “default parent,” Kate McGuinness waited too long to have a biological child. So she adopted a son, ended her marriage, and wouldn’t change a thing. Childless women often view their declining fertility with ambivalence. Jennifer Westfeldt, director […]
Despite the betrayal and public humiliation, some political wives, such as Silda Spitzer, remain with their philandering husbands long after the scandal. But what makes them stay? Today marks four years since the former first couple of New York faced a barrage of cameras when Governor Spitzer resigned from office, felled by his status as […]
This week’s roundup of our favorites from across the interwebs to help you make sense of men and women. 1. New Marriages or No Marriages? by Nancy Folbre of the Economix blog of The New York Times says that why more children are being born to unmarried mothers is a complex question involving education, income, […]
This post originally appeared in somewhat different form at PerverseCowgirl. Republished here with permission. My boyfriend Minx and I recently attended his friend’s wedding. Before I got married, I’d sit through weddings twitching with boredom and making sarcastic comments under my breath (NB: I was young and incredibly cynical). After I got married, and against all […]
If women continue to avoid the “what are you looking for in a relationship?” conversation with their male dates, Hugo Schwyzer says they’re perpetuating the myth that all men are terrified of commitment. We baby men. For all the very real progress we’ve made in recent years in breaking free of unhappy sexual stereotypes, one […]
Lindsay Miller talks about the mostly-traditional preparations for her and her partner’s upcoming wedding. While it may not be legally binding, she says, it’s important to celebrate with loved ones who will hold the couple accountable for maintaining a successful partnership. The venue is set, the invitations are ordered, and I finally found the right […]
This week’s roundup of our favorites from across the interwebs to help you make sense of men and women. 1. As Virginia Ultrasound Rule Fails, Is GOP Seeing Reproductive Rights Backlash? by Michelle Goldberg of The Daily Beast says Gov. Bob McDonnell balked at an ultrasound law, and a personhood bill fell with it. Are […]
This was originally published on Rachel Rabbit White’s blog. Republished here with permission. Why isn’t divorce a good thing? When news of any divorce spreads, it is with a certain sadness (even in celebrity marriages, RIP Thurston Moore and Kim Gordon) or sometimes it is with a little smugness (haha, Kim Kardashian). But considering the high […]
When my marriage had an undeniable crisis, I discovered I was pregnant with my second child. I was terrified that I was about to give birth to another kid to whom I would eventually become a Single Mom. I didn’t believe I had the personal resources to go it alone. I don’t have family support, […]
What if I don’t get any cards? It’s been nearly 35 years since I was last in elementary school, but I can still remember the anxiety that accompanied the February 14ths of my childhood. Though the practice has ended in many American schools, when I was growing up students were expected to give a Valentine’s […]
This week marks the 20-year anniversary of my mother’s remission from breast cancer. Technically, it’s the date of her first mastectomy, and we are celebrating her life, and ours with her, as a survivor. “We” means my first family, or family of origin: my two sisters and me; a smattering of our own partners and […]
This week’s roundup of our favorites from across the interwebs to help you make sense of men and women. 1. Knocked Up: Republican Presidential Candidates’ Plan For American Women by Adele M. Stan of Alternet.org says that birth control is under attack by all of the GOP’s presidential candidates. 2. Singled Out: Are Unmarried People […]
