Marlo Thomas is something of a personal hero to me, but I was admittedly disappointed by her recent article for the official launch of the new HuffPost Women’s Page. I was raised on Free To Be…You And Me (I still occasionally catch myself humming the tune to William Wants a Doll), I have great respect […]
This post is the final installment of a series exploring partnership and independence on the highways of America. Read Part 1 here and Part 2 here. I’m sitting in a hotel room near the Salt Lake City airport. The room smells like dog piss. It’s raining. The Mormon vibe is pervasive. The interior of my […]
I’m a member of a small, but increasing minority: the stay-at-home father. Like stay-at-home mothers always have, I’ve put aside my professional ambitions and earning power to be the primary caregiver for our children. I’m not saying that I would change that. I really love my kids and wouldn’t trade places with anyone in the […]
My husband, Michael, posted recently about how we redesigned our household model 20 months ago when our son (who I’ll call V) was born, and I wanted to add my perspective. Most days, I feel profoundly lucky to have created an approach that, for all of the logistical acrobatics it requires, has held together nicely. […]
This post is Part 2 of a series exploring partnership and independence on the highways of America. You can read Part 1 here. The trailhead of my existence is much different than my current self. That’s a fact. For the last 15 years of my life, I’ve lived in some big, fancy-pants cities, full of […]
Poking around Role/Reboot yesterday, I came across Hugo Schwyzer and Emily Heist Moss’s debate “Who Pays?”, which asked if men should foot the bill on a first date. In responding “yes,” Schwyzer explains that because men, on average, make more money than women it is appropriate for the man to pay. I found his reasoning […]
“I know you have sex,” I told him, “but I’m not ready. If you need to have sex with people to ward off the blue balls, you go right ahead. But do not pressure me for sex, or I’ll dump you.” He said OK. “I know you’re cute and you go to a nerdy school with nerdy boys who’ll […]
This post is part 1 of a series exploring partnership and independence on the highways of America. It was somewhere on the Loneliest Road in America, U.S. Route 50 in the middle of Nevada, when I took off my wedding ring. I thought about it, and then I did it. Oddly, it was that simple. […]
I’m someone who has spent much of her life thinking about and observing gender differences. Growing up in a clear patriarchy, I was very aware that women seemed to have few choices and little influence. Perhaps it’s no surprise, then, that I spent most of my career over the last two plus decades focused on […]
To commemorate Women’s History Month, the Roosevelt Institute’s New Deal 2.0 blog asked me to reflect on past accomplishments and explore today’s key challenges as part of its ongoing ‘Feminomics‘ series. Here’s my take on marriage and what’s really in a name. Much has been made about this so-called woman-friendly recession. One woman in three now earns […]
Men’s cheating and sexual acting-out may be less about women and more about seeking status from other men. Marie Claire ran a story last Wednesday called “The Truth About Bachelor Parties.” It opens, as you might expect, with an anecdote about a groom going to a strip club with his friends and family members (including some […]
Marriage is a delicate thing to rant about, because hey – it’s pretty popular. I would love to meet someone and just fall into a perfect and permanent relationship with them, never growing bored or taking them for granted, and vice versa. I just don’t believe it works that way for many people. That’s why […]
