I’m not looking forward to the part where everyone wants to talk to me about my pregnancy, my body, touch me, offer me advice and criticism. It’s not that I’m averse to attention. I’m not—I love attention. But I only want it for things that I have earned. My husband, Devan, wants to know when […]
We tell them they can be anything they want to be. But do we really believe that? Why don’t we just say, truthfully, the cards are stacked against you because you are a girl? We teach our children to study hard, apply themselves, make an effort, and have faith that they will mostly succeed on the merits […]
Your infertile friend doesn’t want your sympathy. She just wants your friendship. One afternoon when my son was a colicky, refusing-to-sleep newborn and I was stuck home with him, out of my mind from sleep deprivation and round-the-clock nursing, a good friend played for me a voicemail she’d saved for a year, in which I […]
