You didn’t know you’d stare middle age in the face and carry its soggy weight for everyone. And yet, you don’t feel ugly or incapable. The first time you quit stripping in 2003, you shoved your pink spandex bikinis and black booty shorts into a garbage bag and brought them to a lesbian bar in […]
Late-blooming lesbians find they have a journey of many steps ahead of them. Evie has been playing roller derby for nine years. Over the course of her skating career, she’s seen a number of married teammates leave their husbands for lesbian teammates. “That’s never going to happen to me,” she thought. After all, she had […]
I embrace my identity as a socially awkward introvert who often drops eye contact and may speak three sentences at a party. None of those things speak to my character. I am about to turn 46. According to the Census Bureau, I am now one year into my middle age. I love this milestone. Like […]
As you ponder what to get her for Mother’s Day this year, consider giving her something she’d really value: insight and understanding into who she is at this point in her life. Dear Young Adult: If you’re pondering what to get Mom for Mother’s Day and you’re old enough to have some kind of income […]
I didn’t realize how much I valued my sexual attractiveness until it was “gone.” I’ve been mentoring a young woman in my industry (marketing and content writing). I’ve encouraged her to attend local networking events as a way to build connections and help her build her client base. I’ve been doing the same for years, […]
Don’t let old age be wasted on the old. Sometimes I feel smarter than I was 30-something years ago. I don’t remember how to do Algebra or how to diagram a sentence, but I can read several newspaper articles about seemingly disparate issues and immediately see how they are connected. Like David Foster Wallace on […]
I look like a typical 51-year-old, and it is just bizarre realizing that my appearance is something many young women dread. I’m going to tell you a story that is so common and so troubling it is effectively split off from the emotional lives of young women, tucked away into whatever neural recesses exist for […]
