Don’t assume a family who is adopting doesn’t want a celebration, even if the child isn’t a newborn. I know it might sound trite but I’m kind of bummed that I never had a baby shower. Part of me knows I should get over it but another part of me knows I’ll never let it […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, My husband and I used to enjoy oral sex (on me) and he’s amazing at it. However, […]
I love having people around to remind me that, no, the world doesn’t actually revolve around my diaper change schedule. When you have a child, you prepare for the fact that your life will change. Throughout the joys and tribulations of your pregnancy or your partner’s pregnancy or waiting to bring your adopted child home, […]
Do you have a burning question about pregnancy, modern parenting or family life? Send it to Evie at AskEvieColumn@gmail.com or click here to submit your question anonymously. Dear Evie: My husband and I didn’t take the decision to have a baby lightly. We had many enlightened discussions about how we would care for our child, believing […]
Coffee, beer, food. If you have a parent of a brand-new baby on your Christmas list, you’re probably feeling a little stymied. They never have time to read or watch movies anymore, and that beautiful scarf you spent hours knitting is only going to end up living out its days as a burp cloth. Sure, […]
Do you have a burning question about pregnancy, modern parenting or family life? Send it to Evie at AskEvieColumn@gmail.com or click here to submit your question anonymously. Dear Evie, You know when you want a job really, really bad, you do all this prep and sweat over the interview and try on 400 outfits? Then you […]
Doing whatever I want doesn’t automatically make me a feminist. I’m a feminist because I advocate for a world in which every woman has the freedom and resources to do the same. When my partner and I started talking about having a baby—how it would change our lives, what we would need to do to […]
Most nights we fought, and there was a constant tension between us, a tension that felt confusing, because we were working together to raise our baby, but pulling apart in so many other ways. The sippy cup spout was still gunky, smeared with the remnants of a half-squished date. I stared at it in disbelief, […]
An on-site village will always be ideal for new parents wondering who and where they are on the other side of delivery. But the Internet doesn’t have to be a poor substitution. On my first day alone with our newborn daughter, I considered begging my husband to quit his job. We had only lived in […]
Studies show that men who request flexible work accommodations or family leave received lower raises and performance reviews, or risk being perceived to have negative traits often used to stigmatize women, like weakness and uncertainty. Dear current or aspiring equal-sharing dads: Last week should have been a great one for you guys—or at least those of […]
The best advice we got as new parents was to not put much stock in parenting advice. Five years ago, when Stevie and I found out we were going to be parents, the first good, usable piece of parenting advice we received was this: “Take all parenting advice with a grain of salt. Everyone thinks […]
