People don’t fail diets. Diets fail people. Diets simply don’t work. Worse yet, diets usually have the exact opposite effect you’re seeking. As a matter of fact, over 90% of people who go on a diet end up gaining the weight they lost — and often, more — within three years. But you knew that already, didn’t you? Because […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I’m tired of being overweight. I’m a woman in my late 20s and I really want to […]
Think of what would happen to the careers of women if, for just a year even, we consciously sought each other out. Like many other women, in the wake of this year’s election I find myself overwhelmed by both the coded and the blatant misogyny that we have witnessed in the last year. I am […]
I don’t know what the next four years will bring, so I’m going to stop clinging to one perfect life plan. Like most of us, I couldn’t wait for 2016 to end. The presidential election cycle was deeply triggering in a way I’ve never experienced before, but I got myself through the latter half of […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: This year was the worst. Personally, professionally, and politically, 2016 just sucked, so I really want to […]
When you focus on dieting and weight loss, you’re feeding the cultural nonsense. I’ve sat with hundreds of clients who are breaking out of the diet/binge trap and developing a healthy relationship with food and their body. But then they have to go out into a fatphobic, food-obsessed world where their friends, family, colleagues, acquaintances, healthcare providers, and […]
Girls don’t simply decide not to have a voice. We teach them. I think I was 12 years old when I set my first one. My first New Year’s resolution. Always being a bit heavier as a kid, losing weight was at the top of my list when January 1 rolled around. My resolutions would […]
Single people are often told to develop confidence so they will be more attractive to others. I say develop your confidence so you don’t have to worry about what others think. This will be the year: that you start getting up at 5am to go running, that you go on two dates a week, that […]
I will keep in mind that the goal of body positivity shouldn’t make me feel pressured. And if it does, then maybe I should go for body neutrality instead. To be honest, I’ve yet to solidify a New Year’s tradition that feels good deep in my bones. For most of my life, the holiday was […]
It’s well past the time that white people start doing more of the work to challenge racism in the social institutions that have so often benefitted us. I’m not good at making New Year’s resolutions. I’m not very quick at choosing them, and I’m even shakier when it comes to sticking to them. I usually opt […]
Don’t change yourself to make the CEOs in the diet, fashion, or fitness industry any richer. For some of us, the New Year beckons with promises of fresh beginnings, a blank slate over the horizon of the harried and muddled holidays that begs to be filled. Collectively we launch new ways of eating, new exercise […]
We’re all just works in progress, and should always be striving to better ourselves in some way. But it’s also important to still appreciate where we’re at in this moment, and how far we have come. The other day, a friend and I were grumbling back-and-forth about our current woes, which included a slow time […]
