It seems ironic that the products claiming to combat shame around our sexuality are helping us hide it — and implying that we need to. On February 4, an email arrived in my inbox advertising Lorals, a pair of lingerie designed to be worn during oral sex. I was confused. Why would I want anything (besides a dental dam, perhaps) […]
What does a woman have to do around here to get some head? I’ve been in relationships almost exclusively since I was a teenager, and, until recently, had only ever slept with the men I’d been dating. I’ve since had a foray into the hellish casual dating game, and I’ve observed a phenomenon which makes the […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, My husband and I used to enjoy oral sex (on me) and he’s amazing at it. However, […]
My husband and I are absolutely, madly in love. Neither of us qualifies or defines that love by our hair color or eye color or height or (surprise) weight. This one time, a producer of a popular evening news television program called me to request an interview—body positivity, et cetera. The fellow, we’ll just call […]
Sex is not and never has been the narrow definition of penile/vaginal intercourse. (And honestly, how boring is that, anyway?) If sex were an all-you-can-eat Chinese buffet, too many people focus on the Kung Pao chicken. Nothing against the Kung Pao—it’s spicy, it’s satisfying, it’s delicious—but why neglect the egg rolls, the sweet and sour […]
