I learned to be fully present with another while holding no huge expectation of what things mean and where they are going. “How many gears does your motorcycle have?” he asks on our first date, dining alfresco on a balmy L.A. evening, picking at salmon salads. It is the third first date I’ve been on […]
Just before my milk let down, I felt a wave of sadness swell from the pit of my stomach. It was a feeling I described to friends as wistfulness, even homesickness, a scooped-out, hollow feeling. A short, but powerful unmooring. Because my pregnancy had been hard, I decided I would only breastfeed my baby if […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I’ve been dating my girlfriend for three years and we live together. We both have full-time jobs […]
We weren’t raised with constant hugs and kisses, but our kids are, and perhaps that’s the insurance we pay to guarantee them a happier, less neurotic future in an increasingly chaotic world. My daughter snuggles in for a cuddle with me several times a day, particularly in the morning before leaving for school (she’s in […]
Implying that mothers are sick or “selfish” for wanting to continue nourishing and nurturing their babies past a certain age is not only misinformed, but is demeaning to women, mothers, and children. Almost every time I read an article about extended breastfeeding—or even breastfeeding past six months—someone comments that at a certain point, breastfeeding is […]
