For many mothers, our approach to sharing chores and childcare consists of doing the tasks ourselves, nagging our partner to do them, and then resenting that we are doing and nagging. That is a recipe for failure. Both men and women rank sharing household chores as the third most important ingredient in our recipe for a […]
The ideas that plural marriage is restricted to the one man and several wives model—and that it has to have a religious basis—are both ridiculous. “Non-traditional.” A popular catch-all phrase that seems, in common usage, to mean anything that differs from the mainstream. It also describes a large portion of my life—my love life, specifically. My upbringing […]
Gaining legal standing does not mean we now need to accept conventions that don’t work for us. When I first met Valerie 15 years ago, it was love at first sight. Or, really, email at first sight. We met through an online dating service and spent the first month of our courtship writing one another […]
I value my freedom as much as I value love and commitment. For eight years, I was in a relationship that upset a lot of people. “So, are you and James ever going to get married or live together or something like that?” It’s a question I heard a lot during the time James and […]
Fox News says young single women aren’t qualified to vote because they’re all “healthy and hot and running around without a care in the world.” Wait…seriously? Late last month, a panel of Fox News commentators discussed the coming elections when host Kimberly Guilfoyle explained why she didn’t think young single women should vote: “It’s the […]
There is no right or wrong way to be queer. Last week, in a piece for Salon, writer EJ Levy detailed her rare and inverted “coming out” story as a lesbian who married a man. Lesbian, readers cried, You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. Among the […]
