Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: My dear friend has been with her boyfriend for a couple years now. They’re in their early […]
A 2014 Human Rights Commission report found that an incredible one in five women had reported being made redundant, restructured, or not having their contracts renewed while pregnant, during parental leave, or upon their return to work. Becoming a mother is meant to be a time of joy, but workplace discrimination can leave pregnant women […]
Everyone will have an opinion on your birth plan and won’t let something like not having a medical degree stand in the way of giving it to you. Before getting pregnant, I viewed pregnancy the same way I viewed the gluten-free: something other people did and were smug-annoying about. Things I wish I’d known: 1. […]
I’m not looking forward to the part where everyone wants to talk to me about my pregnancy, my body, touch me, offer me advice and criticism. It’s not that I’m averse to attention. I’m not—I love attention. But I only want it for things that I have earned. My husband, Devan, wants to know when […]
I wish that I had spoken to my therapist about my fears of medication and pregnancy and seen a psychiatrist specializing in my condition sooner. I wish that I hadn’t put myself in the path of such terrible, useless suffering. I wanted to get pregnant so I decided to wean off my antidepressant. I didn’t […]
