We shouldn’t disguise such loaded, difficult questions as small talk. I work for a fairly big organization and live in a fairly small town, so naturally I became used to prying, personal questions disguised as small talk. Most of the time, they seemed fairly simple on the surface. “So, how’s married life?” I have a […]
Just treat us with respect, be open to learning from mistakes, and apologize when you make them. And, you know, don’t ask about our genitals. Nothing ruins a fabulous day for me more than entitlement. I’m talking about the expectations placed on me as a transgender person that are never placed on my cisgender counterparts. […]
Marriage doesn’t mean automatic happiness. I am a single mother of two living in New York City. Even though my kids attend a culturally diverse elementary school, I still stand out like a sore thumb. When I go on playdates, half the time the moms are trying to set me up with someone “they know.” The other half the time they’re asking me how hard it is […]
Yes. People really say this stuff. When it comes to adoption, you may have heard stuff about being “chosen” and “born in my heart, not under it.” Those are wonderful sentiments. This isn’t an article about wonderful sentiments, so hold on, k? My sons did not enter this world via my vajayjay. If you see me […]
Do you have a burning question about pregnancy, modern parenting or family life? Send it to Evie at AskEvieColumn@gmail.com or click here to submit your question anonymously. Dear Evie, I just got married. The ink on my thank-you notes isn’t even dry and already I’m bombarded with everyone, EVERYONE asking me when we’re going to have […]
I was speechless. How to explain to this stranger my reasons for making my son an only child? And did I even need to explain my reasons to this virtual stranger? “How old is your son?” “He’s 5.” “When are you having another?” “We’re not.” “Why not?” “We’re blessed with Ryan.” “No. He needs to […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, My partner and I have been together for almost nine years. We are in love, are deeply […]
We share so much of our lives online, but it seems like in the name of political correctness, there are suddenly so many rules about what can and cannot be discussed with another person—even with a friend. We gathered in the center of our cubicle farm—the four women I share the space with stood around […]
For many women, constant reminders that they aren’t pregnant aren’t just annoying—they can be downright cruel. When I got married, I was shocked at how quickly people started asking me when I was going to have a baby. And when I did have a baby a few years later, I expected a fairly lengthy reprieve […]
“Do you have lots of threesomes?” We like to think we’ve come a long way. We like to think that, when it comes to LGBTQIA+ rights, we’ve made leaps and bounds toward equal rights and social acceptance. And we have. But there are still subsets of the queer community that are being ignored or ridiculed, even […]
Because of what we publish about ourselves online, we assume a level of comfort and familiarity that is not only potentially insulting, but misses the real point of connecting. The other day I posted a photo from my recent wedding on Facebook. Unlike many couples, whose 450 shots are plastered and tagged the day after the vows have […]
When was the last time your sister and brother-in-law were asked to defend their “married lifestyle” to a table of 12? The questions arise when you’re passing the potatoes or putting out the nut cups. Are you seeing anyone special? Playing the field? When are you going to settle down? Singles are often grilled about their personal […]
