This originally appeared on Charlie Glickman’s website. Republished here with permission. One of the things that often surprises people is the fact that being queer, kinky, and polyamorous doesn’t have to mean that someone is promiscuous. “Promiscuous” is such an interesting word. My dictionary has two definitions for it: having or characterized by many transient […]
This originally appeared on Alternet.org. Republished here with permission. For a gay woman, it can often be a struggle to determine where exactly she fits in the spectrum of gender identity in both the lesbian and heterosexual communities. Many lesbians are faced with having their sexuality evaluated purely on the basis of their looks, as […]
Emily Heist Moss shares what goes through your mind when you find out your ex is HIV-positive. An email arrives from an old friend with the name of your ex-boyfriend in the subject line. In the body of the email, just this: “I’m totally shocked. When was the last time you talked to him?” You […]
Originally appeared on Mamamia.com. Republished here with permission. All the women I know like condoms. They buy a box at the supermarket; they keep them conveniently stashed in a bedside table. If they’re in bed with a guy, they politely ask him to wear a condom before anything, uh, gets put anywhere. Know what I’m […]
There’s a dance involved with online dating that many have yet to learn, says Christan Marashio. “Let me also be honest here, you are one of the prettiest women I have seen on OKCupid. However, I must be honest with you again…I really enjoy eating women out, I could probably do it for hours on […]
Dana Norris is the founder of Story Club. She once went on 71 Internet dates. This was one of them. Patrick and I have gone on two dates and one late night train ride full of Libertarian tirades and I am digging this guy. We’ve spent upwards of 20 hours on the phone together, he’s […]
Russell O’Connor has never neatly fit into the traditional “masculine” box, and because of that, he’s been ridiculed his whole life. When we speak about gender, we are speaking about the masculine and the feminine. What on earth do we mean by the “masculine” and the “feminine”? Those of us who live unhappily in a […]
This originally ran on Charlie Glickman’s website. Republished here with permission. I’ve been leaning into some edges lately and learning how to ask people for help. Specifically, asking people I don’t know well for things has been a difficult thing for me. It’s been coming up since I’ve been on tour for The Ultimate Guide […]
Women may be drawn to the Don Draper types, says Christan Marashio, but he’s an illusion. As he left my apartment he said that he didn’t want me to write about him. “But if you do write about me…” he tossed over his shoulder in his crisp British accent, “…call me Don Draper.” He was […]
More and more women are tuning in to porn, so why is so much of it still so misogynistic? “Want to watch porn tonight?” “Yes!” We settle in, pulling up one of the many aggregator sites available for people like us, looking to find some attractive strangers we want to watch get down. Let the […]
This originally appeared on MichaelKaufman.com. Republished here with permission. The conviction of two young men for the rape of an unconscious 16-year-old woman in Steubenville, Ohio, should lead us to much-needed discussion about attitudes toward sexual assault and the type of education and social changes we need to end it. Unfortunately, much of the mainstream […]
Lynn Beisner discusses why it’s not OK to objectify men. I don’t usually have celebrity crushes, and I am not usually attracted to men on a purely visual level. One of the few celebrity crushes I have is for George Clooney. It only developed after I saw him on Inside the Actor’s Studio talking about […]
