This piece originally appeared on the Good Men Project. Republished with permission. When I was 18, I waited tables at an Italian restaurant in my hometown. The staff was the typical collection of teenagers, college drop-outs, townies, and single moms you’d expect at a suburban casual dining establishment. Our boss, Jeff, was an outrageous flirt, […]
The men who covered up Jerry Sandusky’s crimes aren’t necessarily evil; they’re part of a powerful network that values conformity. A child rapist and those who knowingly let his offenses go unpunished may not be moral equivalents, but as we’re learning this week from Penn State, inaction can have dire consequences. I’m sickened by the abuse […]
When a colleague asked me a few months back if I had started dating I responded, “Dating me, even in the most seemingly casual way, is an instant commitment. I work hard for my money and if I am going to allocate dollars away from children for a date, I better get a return on […]
Nicole Rodgers and Hugo Schwyzer discuss society’s obsession with the number of people we’ve slept with. This article is a collaboration between Role/Reboot and the Good Men Project. Nicole: If I asked you for your number, why wouldn’t you tell me? Hugo: Well, part of it – honestly – is that the only number I […]
This piece was originally published on Grist. Republished with permission. As I’ve talked to and read about people coming to terms with their decisions not to have kids, the comparison has come up over and over. “I felt like a gay person must feel, coming out of the closet and having these people validating me.” […]
This is a guest post by Clarisse Thorn. It originally appeared on Clarisse’s blog. There are lots of different ways of approaching non-monogamous relationships, such as: + Polyamory: Usually emphasizes developing full-on romantic relationships with more than one partner. Lately I’ve been pondering and working on a number of tricky questions about implementing polyamory. (I’ve […]
My grandma adores my husband to the point where she’ll call ask how I am, interrupt me mid-sentence, and request I pass the phone to her ‘new grandson’. Between the two of us, he’s definitely higher on her favourites list right now. (Meanwhile, I’m quietly hoping the novelty of a ‘grandson’ will wear off and […]
This piece was originally published on Grist. Republished with permission. Contraception has long been the province of women. Isn’t it about time for men to get in on the game? It’s obvious why women have historically been the main consumers of birth control — we’re the ones who get pregnant, give birth, and in many […]
This piece was originally published on the Huffington Post. Republished with permission. This is a call to end the SlutWars. On the off-chance the global SlutWalk movement hasn’t hit your radar, here’s a brief primer: SlutWalk is worldwide grassroots movement challenging rape culture, victim-blaming, and working to end sexual violence. It started in January 2011, when a Toronto […]
This piece was originally published on the Good Men Project. Republished with permission. Judging from what I read online and hear from my students, the question of the “number” is as compelling as ever. In February, Marie Claire ran an article, “What’s Your Number?” in which five women (whose numbers ranged from zero to 100) told their […]
This is a guest post by Clarisse Thorn. It originally appeared on Clarisse’s blog on July 1, 2011. * * * I get a certain question occasionally, from straight dudes who’ve had a number of sexual partners. It goes something like this: All the women I’ve slept with liked pain. They asked me to hurt […]
This piece was originally published on the Good Men Project as part of a special series on the End of Gender. This series includes bloggers from Role/Reboot, Good Men Project, The Huffington Post, Salon, HyperVocal, Ms. Magazine, YourTango, Psychology Today, Princess Free Zone, The Next Great Generation, and Man-Making. I like my balls. They’re my balls, I have them, they’re of me. Do my balls define […]
