Just like that, I found myself realizing I wasn’t nearly as straight as I thought I was. Sexuality is a topic that’s difficult to write about, for a lot of obvious reasons. Sexual identity is something that’s unique and personal to every human being, and as such, my experience is unlikely to mirror yours in […]
I am left to wonder if I can ever love again, seduce again, trust again. While the rest of my network spent the opening months of 2016 bustling and buzzing over the fall of Bowie, the rise of Bernie, and the half-time performance of Beyoncé, I spent it enmeshed in licking the wounds of a […]
Perhaps behind our insistence of “preference” and “desirability” lurks something far more insidious, far uglier than we first thought. When talking with the foreigner female community in Japan, the topic of dating Japanese men usually comes up and we quickly bemoan how so many of them really don’t want to date us. We curse, shake […]
The freedom to have as much sex as we want also includes the freedom to not have sex at all. I first found out about asexuality when I was 19. Throughout high school, I had very little interest in dating or relationships, but it didn’t really bother me. I was quite happy to think of myself […]
I had been waiting my whole life to meet this man, and I knew with absolute certainty that I wanted to have him as a part of my daily life forever. Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA). There wasn’t a word for it back when I first met my father, Jackson. Until very recently, memories of our […]
We all want to feel desired. But whose validation matters most? Our own? Or a man’s? These days, I spend a lot of time writing about valuing my body for what it can do instead of what it looks like, about how body ideals are less monolithic in practice than we think, and about how […]
