I have already found “the one” — it’s me! I had one goal in life: to find a husband. Almost everything I did was with that intention. I joined the dance team in high school because the cute and popular boys were on the football and basketball teams. I dressed in ways I felt would […]
Apparently, being single means having a neon sign above your head saying “Please! Tell me what to do with my life!” And it needs to stop. Do I give you unsolicited advice on your marriage? It was at my 10-year high school reunion when I was first hit with a singledom stinger. “Liz Best!” my former classmate […]
Life is not about keeping score. Besides, you truly have no idea what is going on with other people. I recently attended a party where a man delivered a long, fairly hostile monologue about his wife’s poor driving skills, giving everyone in the room blow-by-blows of each fender bender and exacting details about how much her […]
What irks is not the pain of aloneness, but the perpetuation of the myth that being alone needs fixing and the only remedy is a romantic relationship. In the Boston Sheraton lobby, Kay, my married friend who has listened to my dating woes, reports back from a conversation with a much-admired single writer who admitted […]
This originally appeared on The Date Report. Republished here with permission. The bad, old stereotypes of pathetic single women had been blasted—to be unhappy was to betray womankind, and myself. The setting was sufficiently glamorous: a friend’s book party in a 5th Avenue penthouse. I wore a chiffon dress with a Jackson-Pollock paint-splatter design, sipped […]
This originally appeared on The Daily Life. Republished here with permission. Of course I didn’t think that this was how things would turn out: as a little girl, reading stories in which every woman’s narrative (even the feminist ones, like Anne Shirley of Green Gables) concluded in the happiness of coupledom, I did not anticipate […]
