Many single women still tend to feel singled out. It seems single women have been having a moment lately. Apparently, there are more of us than ever before—and everyone wants to talk about it. If you Google “single women,” you’ll find headlines like “The Single American Woman,” “Why Single Women Are More Powerful in America […]
Why is our culture so threatened by a single woman who chooses her own path? Why is single womanhood seen as such a terrible thing that must be overcome in order to be happy? I’m a single woman who’s dating, online and offline. That’s already a fairly challenging state of affairs. But it would be so […]
When we boil courtship down to a swipe and text messages, then why are we surprised when nobody gives dating any effort? Google the term “Tinder” on any given day and you will find at least one article sharing “the worst Tinder dates ever” or “the most horrific Tinder encounter yet” or “You Won’t BELIEVE […]
Many women I know are sick of being asked when they are getting married or having a baby, or having the next baby. Just let us live! Positive days like Galentine’s Day can remind us that we are OK, just as we are. Many people aren’t aware that Galentine’s Day is a thing. This is […]
Nobody knows the private challenges a couple goes through, and each journey differs. If you’re anything like me, you love nosing around other people’s pictures on social media. It’s that guilty pleasure of looking into their lives, without having to speak to or even meet them. But when your feed is constantly updated with selfies of […]
A single woman in the United States, over the course of her lifetime, could end up paying $1,002,096 more than her coupled-up counterparts. Society just doesn’t cater to single people. I’ve been in long-term relationships without a break since I was 16. I’m now almost 27 and am finally starting to understand the awesome side […]
Single people are often told to develop confidence so they will be more attractive to others. I say develop your confidence so you don’t have to worry about what others think. This will be the year: that you start getting up at 5am to go running, that you go on two dates a week, that […]
Married people do not have to prove why they’re married, so why do people have to explain why they’re not? Dear Concerned Family, Friends, Friends’ Nanas, Co-workers, Strangers on Planes, Hairstylists, Taxi Drivers, et al: I can’t take it. The number of people in my life telling me about the number of times they have been concern-policed […]
According to Justice Kennedy, folks have two choices: Get married or sentence yourself to a lifetime of wretchedness. In American politics, the married heterosexual couple with children has been the gold standard of normalcy and virtue. They’re the people politicians address in their speeches, the ones they vow to fight for. If you exist outside […]
Here I am, now knocking on the door of 30, completely alone for the first time in my life—and is it ever terrifying. “You can’t wear that jersey here,” a random kid I meet at a festival warns me, his face deadly serious. It’s about 3am, and we’re halfway through a shared fifth of Colombian […]
Friend dates are more fun than real dates. I won’t get to make out, but I won’t spend 98% of the night wishing I was dead. Being single isn’t half as bad as many of my single friends make it out to be. Sure, I’d love to come home after a long day and curl […]
Trying too hard with love, forcing yourself and someone else to feel a certain way, or willing emotions to advance too quickly, will leave you feeling nervous, exhausted, strung out, and defeated. After my 10 year relationship ended, 10 years too long and a lot of angst culminating to the anti-climactic ending, I slowly began […]
