It seems ironic that the products claiming to combat shame around our sexuality are helping us hide it — and implying that we need to. On February 4, an email arrived in my inbox advertising Lorals, a pair of lingerie designed to be worn during oral sex. I was confused. Why would I want anything (besides a dental dam, perhaps) […]
Can you really have too much of a good thing? Ah, masturbation. One of life’s greatest cost-free pleasures. Getting turned on, touching yourself and having an orgasm is a really good time – and I mean good for the body, mind, and soul. It’s amazing if you’re alone, and fabulous if you’re in a relationship. It can be a […]
Women will talk to each other about absolutely raw physical experiences, such as giving birth, so why is masturbation usually off the table? I’m a healthy, sexual woman. I’m not ashamed to discuss my sex life with people I’m comfortable with. In fact, talking about sex with my close female friends was something of a […]
Any kind of societal or internalized conditioning that makes a woman feel ashamed about owning and embracing her sexuality has got to go. A few years ago I was asked to participate in a storytelling show. The piece I read was called “My Vibrator Story.” I had written it in a workshop and test read the […]
If women masturbating is taboo, then the notion of a mother masturbating is either dismissed as an aberration, or more likely, just not considered. But becoming a mother doesn’t end our personal relationships with our vulvas. Despite a recent Kinsey report that points out that 85% of women masturbate, this popular form of self-love is missing […]
