For folks who read Tracy McMillian’s recent article on Why You’re Not Married, here’s the other side of the story, from an unmarried Jessica Ravitz at CNN on why she’s not married. According to Ravitz, McMillian’s list of six reasons missed the most important one: “life happens.”

Although this is more a personal account than an attempt to defend all unmarried women, to me, its also an a reminder of the fact that we’re in a moment when marriage isn’t the most important accomplishment  women can achieve – and many women have very full lives without being married – so unless its something women actively want, its very easy to end up 40 and unmarried.  Is that a bad thing?  I guess it depends on who you ask.

What I hope we don’t end up doing is pitting married women against unmarried women.  That would be a shame.

Read Ravitz full piece here.

-Nicole