“As a black male, there is an expectation for us to be the epitome of masculinity. Living up to that expectation is not only challenging, but it’s also destructive.” The latest fashion trend, the romper for men—or as it’s affectionately called, the “romphim”—has received mixed feedback on social media. Many find fashion flashbacks like this strange, but […]
1. What’s your name? Where do you live? How old are you? My name is Bernadette Murphy. I live in Pasadena, California, and recently turned (gulp!) 53. I still don’t know how that’s possible. 2. Where did you grow up and how would you describe your childhood? I grew up in Glendale, California, the daughter of […]
Whether you vote for her or not, please recognize that her nomination has eliminated another male bastion. Many Millennial women are unimpressed by Hillary Clinton’s presumed presidential nomination. They argue that her success isn’t a true feminist victory because she is still white, still rich, still part of the political elite. Now I don’t believe […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: My partner and I desperately need your advice. About six months ago, we moved from our roomy […]
While some topics are hard to discuss and might make you uncomfortable, that doesn’t mean your children need to be sheltered. I lie to my kid constantly. I tell her the store is closed in the middle of the day, when I don’t want to go. I will say, “I have no idea where that […]
South Carolina’s Confederate flag needs to come down. But don’t let a symbol of racism draw our attention from the systemic inequality and hatred it represents. Let’s start here: South Carolina should take down the Confederate flag down that’s flying over its capital. I say this as little more than a spectator. I am a 34-year-old […]
Not once did it occur to me that my aversion to sex was anything other than godliness. I’m not normally a person who watches TED talks. I want to be, but the idea of committing myself to something educational when I could be watching videos of dogs is a hard sell. When a Facebook friend […]
There is this idea that if a woman celebrates her fat body as beautiful and worthwhile, then she is a bad influence on those around her. Imagine this: A woman tells a story on her personal blog about how she learned to stop hating her body. She writes of the journey that took her out […]
