If we are not doing these things—working every single day to take down the system that allows this kind of racist violence to occur—then we are not only complicit in the violence, but we are part of the violence. Last summer, I bought my white daughter a black doll. As I watched the news unfold […]
The last thing we need is one more thing to feel inadequate about, one more thing to feel like we’re doing “wrong” when it comes to having a baby. I looked at the sample birth plan my midwife handed to us with a furrowed brow. It was six pages long and had questions I hadn’t […]
“There’s nothing inherently bad about being femme; problems arise when we try to enforce femininity on people as a means of oppression.” — Anne Theriault When I found out I was pregnant, I put a lot of thought into how I could avoid forcing conventional gender norms on my child. We chose a gender neutral […]
Kids whose parents are too involved or controlling are more likely to suffer from depression or anxiety. I grew up in a home full of love and support. I was surrounded by people who only wanted what was best for me—but sometimes, the way that played out actually had the opposite of the intended effect. […]
