He’s the person who knows more about me than anyone in the entire world, yet the topic that’s on everyone else’s lips has him keeping his sealed? When I saw that my boyfriend received his voter registration details in the mail, I jokingly asked, “You’re not voting for Trump, are you?” I posed this not […]
Wanting a baby can make you crazy—with desire, with need, with jealousy, and most of all, with options. For my 40th birthday, I bought myself a $200+ fertility monitor. No, it’s not a glamorous gift, or one I’m particularly proud of—and it’s definitely not something I’d ever ask anyone else to purchase for me—but it’s a […]
From Monica Lewinsky to former porn star Candida Royalle, every woman has been judged for her sexuality. And the ramifications run much deeper than most of us realize. If you’re having a conversation about sex with someone in the U.S., you are probably also, implicitly or explicitly, also talking about shame. The two are intertwined, […]
While finding a partner can be challenging for bisexual women, once they’re in relationships, there’s pressure to play down their bi-ness in order to be taken seriously as a partner. In the new film Appropriate Behavior, bisexual protagonist Shirin—played by writer/director Desiree Akhavan—has a conversation with her brother about her romantic life that goes like this: […]
Living with someone who simply doesn’t let himself care about what other people think is a constant revelation. I thought I’d dealt with most of my body image issues before I started dating my current boyfriend. But during the three years we’ve been together, he’s taught me a lot about size, fatness, and self-care. How? By being fat and […]
This originally appeared on Dame Magazine. Republished here with permission. Having a precarious income feels like I’m failing at being a modern woman, the kind who is strong and powerful and, most importantly, can support herself. When I first started dating my boyfriend in January 2012, I made more than him—and I liked it that […]
Rachel Kramer Bussel responds to the blogger who blames other women for her husband’s roving eye. Recently, blogger Lauren of Apples and Band-Aids caused an uproar among bloggers when she wrote a post claiming that racy social media images by sexy female strangers were a threat to her marriage. To wit: When your bare shoulders […]
