I learned quickly that boys were very, very fragile. And that the slightest misstep could get me followed, called a cunt, or get a car door slammed on my leg. The Santa Fe shooter’s father has come out with a statement about his son, claiming he’s a victim: “My son, to me, is not a […]
I was afraid, not necessarily of him in particular, but of men in general — of what men do when women disappoint them. When I was in high school, I broke up with a boy who later slit his wrists. After he cut himself, he decided to walk to my house, more than five country […]
The rise of White Nationalists in this country shows how easy it is for young white America to erase the subjugation of Black America from reality. Kanye West is not going to further that. When I was promoted to kitchen supervisor, the first thing I did was text the person leaving that position, who happens […]
My friend keeps trying to deflect the conversation. The bartender ignores the obvious hints. He calls me a yellow girl. I know that arguing with entitled white men on Facebook never ends well, but I don’t know if I’ve ever been angrier in my life. He’s mansplaining multiple women of color by defending the right […]
There is no such thing as “justice” for being penetrated against your will. A jury found actor and comedian Bill Cosby guilty yesterday of drugging and sexually assaulting a Pennsylvania woman 14 years ago. And predictably, the conversation around the verdict has focused on the same thing as Cosby’s own defense: the credibility of the […]
How painful would it be, to realize that the people you relied on for a sense of purpose are liars, philanderers, or child molesters? When I cracked open the first textbook of the spring semester, I wasn’t exactly thrilled to be learning about something called dramatism. The current state of politics and human relations are […]
How much we can sacrifice depends on how many other places in our lives we may be needed. In February, my 4-year-old daughter came down with the flu (yes, she had her flu shot). We got lucky—the virus never became life-threatening for her, and she was mostly over it within a few rough days, back […]
In Schumer’s world, the only thing funnier than a fat woman is a fat woman who thinks she’s beautiful. If you ask the the directors of Amy Schumer’s new movie, I Feel Pretty, what its message is, they’ll tell you it’s about self-empowerment and not letting society’s perceptions of you dictate your self worth. The […]
