Parents want their kids to experience diversity in their education, but not TOO much diversity. Last year when I attempted to pick my daughter up from school, the volunteers in the carpool line tried to put a fourth grader in my car, not the 4-year-old I was attempting to retrieve. Both of us were vehemently […]
The way we approach parenting in our society—as a wholly individualistic enterprise, each family left to figure out their own path—means that only parents with financial resources are realistically able to parent the way they want to. Telling parents “If you don’t like it, do something about it” only perpetuates the issue. Every time I […]
More loyal than loving, I am deeply connected to my family and friends, but I am not your stereotypical “nurturing mother.” In a society where women are expected to be emotional and loving, I am analytical and often distant. Sometimes I wonder if my brain is missing a chip. The other day my son Bobby […]
Do you have a burning question about pregnancy, modern parenting or family life? Send it to Evie at AskEvieColumn@gmail.com or click here to submit your question anonymously. Dear Evie: We recently took our 6-year-old daughter skating and they had hired someone to skate around the rink in a giant Olaf costume. My daughter asked a lot […]
I don’t call myself estranged. I didn’t turn away from my mother’s love. It is her love itself that is estranged, twisted, wrong. In the end, it took something as big as a terrorist attack to help me to see clearly that I was at an endgame with my mother. I was living paycheck to paycheck and […]
Everyone will have an opinion on your birth plan and won’t let something like not having a medical degree stand in the way of giving it to you. Before getting pregnant, I viewed pregnancy the same way I viewed the gluten-free: something other people did and were smug-annoying about. Things I wish I’d known: 1. […]
You will sometimes wonder if it was worth it. Maybe you’ve dreamed of this your whole life. Maybe this is a pleasant surprise. Maybe you never wanted this, but felt you had no choice. Whatever led you down this path, you’re here now. Brace yourself, Alice, you’ve just fallen down the rabbit hole. There are […]
Mom friendships form organically as the years go on, but what you really need out the gate isn’t a “mom tribe.” You simply need a tribe. Period. I was the first among my peers to have a baby. I had never felt as alone as I did in the midst of new parenthood. I wanted […]
