I have been hurt many times in my life, and I will probably be hurt many times more, but those words pierced my heart. I heard the two words you should never say to a new mother a few months ago. I was crying, doubting my ability to mother our toddler and 5-month-old twins. I […]
Kids are different. Times have changed. This we know. But does “smarter” necessarily mean “better”? Does access to more information correspond with greater levels of compassion, understanding, and kindness? I don’t think it’s an exaggeration to say that my second-grade son is smarter than I was at his age. Admittedly, I’m basing that declaration on […]
I make it a point to let them see me mow the lawn, take the garbage out, and do other “man jobs.” When I was a little girl, they told me I could do anything I wanted to. So I did. I mowed the lawn, drove the tractors, baled hay, and did manual labor on […]
Yes. People really say this stuff. When it comes to adoption, you may have heard stuff about being “chosen” and “born in my heart, not under it.” Those are wonderful sentiments. This isn’t an article about wonderful sentiments, so hold on, k? My sons did not enter this world via my vajayjay. If you see me […]
The phrase “self-care” comes loaded with assumptions about who has the ability to care for themselves, and what kind of care is valuable. Exercise is virtuous. Devouring “Making a Murderer” in a single sitting is gluttonous. Here’s a scene: It’s my daughter’s 2nd birthday party, and I’m standing in my Elmo-bedecked kitchen with three other […]
Honestly, I just don’t want to make the sacrifices required. Making the decision to not have children is a controversial choice for many people. Family and friends tell stories of indescribable love and fulfillment that come with parenthood—convinced that anyone who voluntarily foregoes the experience is making a huge mistake. What bothers me most about […]
I didn’t make this choice to hurt them; I made this choice to save myself. I don’t have a biological family. Well, I used to but I don’t anymore. They sucked so I disowned them. Harsh words, I know. If you’re shocked, you’re not the only one. Many tragic things over the course of my lifetime have led […]
Do you have a burning question about pregnancy, modern parenting or family life? Send it to Evie at AskEvieColumn@gmail.com or click here to submit your question anonymously. Dear Evie: My husband and I didn’t take the decision to have a baby lightly. We had many enlightened discussions about how we would care for our child, believing […]
