Whatever we are scared of—fucking up or having more to lose; free falling or feeling trapped—we have to get cozy inside the discomfort. Without incessantly fixing everything or requiring tangible proof at every step. I am standing in a long, white hallway. Brightly lit doors line both sides unmarked. Institutional and The Shining-like, maybe 20 lie […]
It’s easy to be glib when the more difficult moments are behind you. There is nothing more maddening to me in the throes of something difficult than the advice to “cherish every moment.” The sentiments usually come from someone farther along the path than me—someone buoyed on waves of forgetting and nostalgia for whom the […]
You would never tell an asthmatic that their chest is hurting wrong, just breathe better. The same goes for grief. There were several years in my early 20s that I call my “season of death.” Within a three-year span, one of my best friends, my dad, both of my maternal grandparents, my aunt, and my uncle […]
There we were baring more than just our souls to each other. It was nice and rather sensual with the wind kissing your naked bits. When my friend Sandy, as I’ll call her, announced that she wanted to go to Wreck Beach, I was surprised. Wreck Beach, as anyone from Vancouver, Canada, knows, is “clothing […]
As I was appreciating my hair and my boobs that morning, I was also thinking about how little we can ask from the universe. Pretty much just this—to be kept whole. On the morning of my 39th birthday, I was grateful for two things: my hair and my boobs. There were other things too, of […]
It’s drilled into our heads by society that we’re supposed to be happy, and if we aren’t, there’s something wrong with us. Most of us grow up believing that happiness is the best and most important emotion that we can feel. The goal of life is to be happy at all times, and all other […]
Women spend more than $10,000 on hair removal over their life; 95% of women under 30 remove some to all of their pubic hair. Why? Every year pubic hair is declared “back”—from the Daily Magazine in 2012, to the Telegraph in 2013, to Women’s Health Magazine in 2014, to Alternet in 2015. But is it really? How does pubic hair […]
Sure, I have met some cool children over the course of my life, but deep down, I just know it’s not for me. What I am about to say may stun and horrify readers… I do not want children. Ever. I know some of you are probably wondering why I would deny myself the joys […]
