Because the best day of high school was the last day. I don’t want to attend my 50th high school reunion. No excuses, I just don’t want to. I can afford it, I don’t have family obligations keeping me home, I look fine, and I’m proud of my accomplishments. I just don’t want to go. When […]
This was our home. This was where, six years and 22 days after we signed the mortgage papers, he died in my arms. In the weeks and months after my husband died, countless people asked me if we were going to move: out of the house, out of town, out of state, anywhere else. To be […]
I find it ridiculous that patients are sent home from surgery with instructions about pooping and bathing, but nothing about the potential emotional complications of surgery. Just when you thought Caitlyn Jenner couldn’t be a better role model or teach us more, she slipped an important side note into her Vanity Fair debut. In the interview, […]
Here I am, now knocking on the door of 30, completely alone for the first time in my life—and is it ever terrifying. “You can’t wear that jersey here,” a random kid I meet at a festival warns me, his face deadly serious. It’s about 3am, and we’re halfway through a shared fifth of Colombian […]
I decided to stop feeling guilty about being a “bad homemaker” and just own the homemaker that I am. So, I hired a housecleaning service, and then, in true Millennial navel-gazing fashion, I had an existential meltdown about what it says about me that I hired a housecleaning service. And because I’m a woman who […]
Just because I do not represent someone’s ideal of beauty, they are not allowed, by their actions, to negate me. If you hang around my mother and me long enough, you will hear the Onion Ring Story. I honestly don’t know why she tells it. Maybe she thinks it’s a cute childhood anecdote that should […]
It should be just hair but our culture actually puts way more weight on women’s heads than our follicles could ever produce. At some point during the last week I entered the world of the surreal. Why? Because I “allowed” my daughter to shave her head a few weeks ago. The response has been overwhelmingly […]
My husband hates talking about death, but I bring it up frequently. I hate keeping it as a shadow that follows us on sunny days. I want it out in the open. I want to take some of the darkness out of it. I am in the middle of my second breast cancer scare. Last […]
