Ultimately, marriage seems to be a trap for both parties — especially for those who find it difficult to live within pre-established roles. We’ve both been married before. So when I offered the love of my life a proposal – “Let’s not get married” — I thought he would understand. Here’s how I saw it: Marriage […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: My wife and I have been married for almost 15 years. We have a great relationship, but […]
Monogamist or polyamorist, you need to put in the work if you want your relationships to thrive and be a positive force in your life. Love is something that demands work. I’ve been polyamorous for about a year. Although I don’t quite consider myself an “expert” in polyamory, I have been thinking about this past […]
Sex-positivity and sexual misconduct, though, are really, really different, and we should know better than to engage in the latter under the guise of the former. “How could I be offended by that?” That’s the question that ran through my mind when a friend of a friend said “when you see me, you’ll get wet” […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: My dear friend has been with her boyfriend for a couple years now. They’re in their early […]
Your asexuality is a real experience, not a reason to visit the doctor. There are a ton of confusing, harmful, and downright untrue messages about sex in our society. Growing up, many of us picked them up from our favorite magazines, from watching TV, from out-of-touch sex-ed classes, and from peers who are learning just […]
Male birth control is a long overdue part of gender equality. Last summer, high school junior William Trinh landed a coveted internship funded by the National Institutes of Health. He showed up at the University of Washington expecting to spend a couple of months peering into a microscope, but that wasn’t the kind of help […]
The narrative we’ve all been given—that sex is this way and this way only—isn’t particularly healthy for any of us. I’m not entirely sure where I first heard the term “outercourse,” but it seems pretty likely that it was in conjunction with a workshop at one of the many sex-positive events I love to attend. […]
