When did we let our quick-fix culture mess with our dating life? Maybe it’s the influence of Tinder, or more generally our “buy it now” culture, but I feel like there’s an increasing pressure on dating to have immediate results. Whether it’s sex or commitment or marriage, it seems like more and more people I come […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: My wife and I have been married for almost 10 years. Most of them have been happy, […]
Is it permissible to conjecture aloud about my sexuality despite never having acted on the feelings I lay claim to? Am I supposed to claim a label? Am I allowed to claim a label? There are those in my life whom, after reading my novel Beyond the Break, are not quite sure how to react. “Kristen,” […]
I, too, felt destined to become the best version of myself. I have always been Emily; letting others see that was as unavoidable as gravity. Every good story begins with a dream. Rocky wanted to be a boxer, Luke wanted to be a Jedi, Dorothy wanted to get back to Kansas. And me? I wanted […]
Having a bigger body while getting laid and getting pleasure from it seems to be too much for the poor dudebros of the world. Two nights ago, I checked my filtered mail on Facebook. Lo and behold, this was in my inbox: First: I have no idea who this person is (a person of the male gender) […]
You realize how much effort it really takes to be in a successful, faithful marriage or long-term relationship. It takes guts and constant communication. It takes two. It’s give and take. It’s all about commitment. Those are a few of the slogans I’ve heard people use in regards to relationships and marriage. While I agree […]
The pain of infidelity is enough for women to live with. We shouldn’t require that they also live with our tired moral judgments. I had been married less than six months when I found out that my new husband was already cheating on me. I was standing in a sweltering laundromat on an Air Force […]
Why is our culture so threatened by a single woman who chooses her own path? Why is single womanhood seen as such a terrible thing that must be overcome in order to be happy? I’m a single woman who’s dating, online and offline. That’s already a fairly challenging state of affairs. But it would be so […]
