Feeling sexy in a body my culture deems unsexy, while also believing that body should dutifully service someone else’s pleasure doesn’t make me want to slip on a silk teddy and give it the old college try. In a small examination room at my doctor’s office, I sit on the narrow table wearing a papery […]
A new study finds Tinder users experience an especially high level of self-scrutiny. Blind dating has always been a risky proposition, in which things can go awry based on your face, your body, or a stray remark that is misinterpreted. And that rejection can be a rough punch to take. Unlike in years past, where […]
Absence really DOES make the heart grow fonder. “It’s never going to work,” everyone said about my long-distance relationship. Thirteen years ago, I threw myself head first into a committed relationship with a man who lived in San Francisco. I lived in Florida. We were separated by more than three thousand miles, strict work schedules, financial […]
Men are led to believe, often since they are young boys, that women should have sex with them when they want it. You’ve no doubt heard this complaint from one of your married friends: We’re not having as much sex anymore. It’s a complaint that plays right into the stereotype that once couples get married they […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: I’m having a rough time lately. It seems like every other week, there’s another horrific shooting or […]
We cannot control or choose the sexuality of others. To do so is to commit a deep violence against another human being. I am continually amazed at the negativity people carry about their sexuality and at how much they will disconnect and defect from this part of themselves, as if it is outside of us. […]
“Your body is a temple,” my mom said. “It’s sacred so don’t let just anyone in.” The sex education classroom, as I remember it, can be divided into three respective groups: those who giggled at the word sex, those whose faces disappeared behind their folded arms or contorted into a sour-faced cringe, and those whose […]
There is no “normal” amount of sex to have and no “normal” type of sex. There is a common sexual experience that few people talk about and yet is more pervasive than most people realize. Many adults are sexually inexperienced and this causes a slew of issues as they get further into adulthood, deeper into […]
