I’m a straight man in love with a straight woman. When I moved to a new town in Pennsylvania just over a year ago, I had no idea of what an enormous effect the change would have on my life. The only people I knew in Pennsylvania were a few friends I’d lived with previously who were local […]
Entangled limbs and sheets all askew are so overrated. I’m not looking for the marital sleeping arrangements you see in the movies. I don’t want entangled limbs and sheets all askew. If I open my eyes in the morning to find that my husband has already woken up and is downstairs with the baby, I don’t […]
This ain’t a Disney film… Relationships nowadays seem endlessly convoluted. With game-playing, fear of commitment, and the insidious role of social media in dating, it seems a miracle when we find that special someone. But even when you catch that fabulous fish hook, line, and sinker, it’s easy to be fooled by all of the ill-begotten relationship […]
Sometimes, all it takes is a moment of true presence with another person for a profound shift to happen. The scene: mid-October, 2015, New York City. The World’s Largest Eye-Gazing Event. I’m a helper for the event, and I’m set up in Herald Square, in front of Macy’s. I carry a sign that reads: Where […]
I would like to say that “Sara now resides in Seattle with her amazing partner and is finally calm, cool, and collected” but that would be a lie. Using the word “anxiety” in any sort of diagnosis creates a visualization that is both immediately recognizable and simultaneously hated on. Everyone has anxiety, everyone goes through […]
Though the majority of our friends and family support our decisions, we lack for role models in our own genders. I long to confide in women who took the career path, but can still only lean in so far. One thing I’ve learned after 10 years as a college professor is that teaching tends to […]
I don’t remember The Talk, precisely because there wasn’t one. Instead, discussions about sex, sexuality, bodily changes, and so on were sprinkled throughout my adolescence as necessary, and this method ensured that I never felt ashamed to talk to my mom. “My next column is about how lucky I am to have a sex-positive mom.” […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: My husband and I have been together for 15 years. We’ve been through a lot together—illness, financial […]
