Many women I know are sick of being asked when they are getting married or having a baby, or having the next baby. Just let us live! Positive days like Galentine’s Day can remind us that we are OK, just as we are. Many people aren’t aware that Galentine’s Day is a thing. This is […]
Does he defend Bill Cosby? Run. Seriously, run. I’ve been on this planet for more than three decades now and I’ve learned a lot about being a straight feminist woman post-puberty in romantic relationships. Importantly, I’ve learned that there are some generally solid ways to figure out if the guy you’re dating is worth the […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana; I’m in my last year of college and I’ve never been in a relationship. Recently, a guy […]
Asexual folks are not broken, we’re not lying, and we certainly don’t need to have sex to change our minds. These days, there’s a lot of information on the Internet about asexuality. And while it’s getting more attention, it’s still a misunderstood sexual identity. I am asexual, but just like someone who’s a music lover, the […]
I stayed with him for six years because I was convinced I owed it to my parents to make it work. I was convinced that no one else would ever love me. A question I’m often asked is, “Why did you stay with him for so long after everything that happened?” This is one question […]
Nobody knows the private challenges a couple goes through, and each journey differs. If you’re anything like me, you love nosing around other people’s pictures on social media. It’s that guilty pleasure of looking into their lives, without having to speak to or even meet them. But when your feed is constantly updated with selfies of […]
We’re not imagining ourselves in loving relationships, dialogue and all, as we get ourselves off. And we’re definitely not lighting scented candles and applying body lotion to create a sensuous environment. “I think I masturbate more when I’m stressed.” “You masturbate?” This conversation I had with a male friend embodies the surprise a lot of people express when […]
I wanted to have sex when I was 15, and you probably did too. My own teenage years are pressed into the back of my mind, and from a certain angle, in a particularly rosy light, they are nostalgic rather than shameful and full of bad decisions. I sometimes pull out an anecdote or two, […]
