When a man says “I like going down on a woman,” there’s very often a subtext of “Doesn’t that make me awesome?” We’re starting to talk more about giving equal weight to women’s pleasure in man/woman sexual encounters, and that’s awesome. As a woman, you’d think I’d be all for focusing more on women’s pleasure in sex. […]
It was his fault. Not theirs. He didn’t deserve me and I should have left years before. When I found out about my husband’s infidelity, I freaked out. I exploded. I went a little nuts in the moment. Personally, I feel like this is a perfectly reasonable response when you’re blindsided with something as horrible […]
Single people are often told to develop confidence so they will be more attractive to others. I say develop your confidence so you don’t have to worry about what others think. This will be the year: that you start getting up at 5am to go running, that you go on two dates a week, that […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I have a problem with a friend that I’m not sure how to address. We met a […]
How having a polyamorous marriage keeps things new and lively. I vividly remember the first time I felt it. My husband and I were in the backyard laying in the sun and sipping drinks while he described the previous evening. As he talked, his face looked brighter, his eyes clearer. In a flash of déjà vu, I remembered […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: Let me begin by saying: I’m stressed. The holidays are a stressful time of year for me, […]
You are not obliged to attend every happy hour, every ornament exchange, every cookie party, every holiday get-together. Choose which events will bring you the most joy, and learn to politely decline the other invitations. This is my first holiday season as a married woman, and I’m loving every moment. This will be the fourth Christmas […]
Bisexuality has very little to do with one’s inclination to have threesomes. It’s hard to be bisexual—or queer or pansexual or omnisexual or heteroflexible or whatever your preferred label or non-label-of-choice might be. It’s hard because of invisibility and discrimination and stereotypes and stigma, and though I can’t totally prove it, I suspect Anne Heche has something to do […]
