After how many dates do you bring up the medical condition that prevents you from having vaginal intercourse? I was supposed to be at the restaurant in 30 minutes. I opened our text conversation and, for the fifth time in a half hour, typed then deleted my excuse for canceling on him. I scolded myself […]
According to the self-proclaimed relationship experts of the Internet, my marriage is doomed. Why? For one of the following reasons. 1) Dan and I met online. Apparently if you marry someone you met on a dating website, then you have not found true love and will have a higher chance of getting divorced. 2) We […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I’ve been married for five years, and my husband and I were together five years before that. […]
Thank you for bringing me to my lowest point and for helping me find that strong girl I’d buried under loads of self-hate. I’m stronger in spite of you. Hey You, Do you remember the first time I said that to you? You insisted the phrase “hey you” was a subtle way of flirting. Every […]
The female douchebag is not an urban legend or fabled archetype created by past scorned lovers. They do exist. I know this because I have been one. My douchebag flag was flying high the first time I tried to meet women out in the wilds of L.A. The maiden voyage to a WeHo gay club […]
It’s important to create spaces for people who don’t clearly fit labels because their identities and their experiences are real, and they matter. One of the biggest changes we can celebrate in our media over recent years is the increasing visibility of LGBT people onscreen. But what about people whose sexuality doesn’t fit into any […]
You love each other. You move in together—which is a prelude to a wedding, right? This writer thought so, until the myth of holy matrimony was exploded by her grandparents’ relationship. When I was 8, my grandparents came home one evening after spending the entire day out—a rarity for them. I asked them what they […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I recently (about 6 months ago) ended a long-term (4.5 year) relationship. Over the past 6 months, […]
