People assume asexual people don’t form intimate relationships. This is very wrong. In the last 10 years, there has been a growing awareness that some people don’t want or need sex to live happy and fulfilled lives. However, something that still confuses people is how asexual people navigate dating. So, to demystify this concept for people, […]
As grown-up as I believed I was, I didn’t have the power to stand up for myself or the experience to communicate what I wanted and needed, so I became a conduit for satisfying the needs of others and ended up miserable. When I was in high school, I dated an appalling-in-retrospect string of men […]
Married people do not have to prove why they’re married, so why do people have to explain why they’re not? Dear Concerned Family, Friends, Friends’ Nanas, Co-workers, Strangers on Planes, Hairstylists, Taxi Drivers, et al: I can’t take it. The number of people in my life telling me about the number of times they have been concern-policed […]
How I wish things turned out the way they do in the movies. (Spoiler alert) The day before I saw Amy Schumer’s new movie Trainwreck, the man I’d been dating for the last six weeks made an impromptu visit to my house after I enticed him with some sexy texting and vague promises. The day before that, […]
My lover is a passionate and skilled lover who enjoys the sexual opportunities I offer without expecting any kind of serious commitment. He brings toe-curling excitement to my life and I get to turn around and bring that high-octane sexual energy back home to my husband. Everyone wins. Polyamory and non-monogamy seem to be all the […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, My partner and I have lived happily together for the last five years, and now that it’s […]
We meant it as a joke, but it turned out to be the saddest selfie I’ve ever taken. The house where we spent the last years of our marriage, celebrated Christmases and Thanksgivings, where our youngest child was born…it was cleared out. After three days and several trips, our beloved country farmhouse stood as empty […]
I wanted a man who could dress well. But I also wanted someone secure enough to know that, deep down, clothes don’t make the man. In Frank, I could have only the latter. On our first date, my husband wore a green shirt with epaulets that looked like something he’d borrowed from his mother. We […]
