Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana: I’m 35 and single. I’ve been trying my hand at online dating for the last year and […]
The only person entitled to an opinion on my life is me, and the decision of when or if to get married is my own to make. It finally happened. I’ve always heard people talk about that period in your mid-20s, a couple years out of college, when all of your friends start to get […]
I’d rather not exploit parts of my intimate relationship for public gain. My husband and I went to Las Vegas last weekend. Las Vegas is both the place we met again, 15 years after high school, and the place where we got married. We took a picture of ourselves outside of the chapel where we […]
While finding a partner can be challenging for bisexual women, once they’re in relationships, there’s pressure to play down their bi-ness in order to be taken seriously as a partner. In the new film Appropriate Behavior, bisexual protagonist Shirin—played by writer/director Desiree Akhavan—has a conversation with her brother about her romantic life that goes like this: […]
The beauty of divorce at midlife is that we are free to create the life we want without societal expectations of what it “should” look like. “Do you think you’d still be married if all the bad stuff hadn’t happened?” a friend asked me several years ago. “I don’t know,” I answered after a few minutes, […]
There, half-naked on the table, I heard my esthetician’s muffled voice coming from somewhere below my waist to ask, “You don’t remember me, do you?” Back when I was having sex on a fairly regular basis, I decided to get adventurous and change up my normal grooming regimen of letting things down there lie fallow […]
What’s worse: emotional or sexual infidelity? A new study says that your gender may determine how you answer that. A new study came out recently from Chapman University about jealousy and infidelity. According to the study, which surveyed 64,000 people in America, 54% of men and 35% of women said they were more bothered by […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, I’m in college and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for two years. He and I are really […]
