Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, The past few columns you’ve been handing out “dump him” advice and, while I don’t think you’re […]
The next time anyone mentions “self-care” to you, perhaps you should consider increasing your life satisfaction by engaging in some hand-to-gland combat. There’s no question that porn gets a lot of things wrong about sex. These days, we can’t throw a nipple clamp out of a window without it landing on a study claiming porn is ruining humanity in […]
We should give room to folks to follow their journey however it comes to them (as long as it doesn’t stop others from following theirs). That is queerness, after all. For a while, I thought I was gay. And maybe I was for some of that time – there’s nothing wrong with being gay. But […]
At least at home, I know they won’t run out of condoms or be put in a situation where they don’t feel like they can say no. Like most parents, I try to avoid thinking about my kids having sex. Having been a teenager myself once upon a time, I knew it was likely they’d […]
Dear Dana is a bi-weekly advice column for humans who engage in romantic relationships. Please send your dilemmas, issues, conundrums, assumptions, conflicts, anxieties, worriments, obstacles, complications, predicaments, queries, questions, and any other synonyms for “problems” to deardana@rolereboot.org. Dear Dana, Please call me K. I am in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend who is in the […]
When two women dance together to a slow song, people tend to stare. And this night seemed to be no exception. At the end of September, she wrote me an email with the subject “Just to clarify.” My legs buckled, but I balanced myself against the desk. Opened her message. I skimmed through two paragraphs […]
Time to stop feeling guilty about wanting to find a partner. Let’s hear it for all of you single moms out there! According to the United States Census Bureau, as of 2016, 23% of children under age 18 are raised by a single mother. That’s a lot of children being raised by fierce, independent, and strong women. via GIPHY And […]
It’s time to close the door on this act of masochistic nostalgia. There’s this one running loop in D.C. that I find myself jogging along from time to time. It’s a doozy. The seven-mile route takes me into three of the four quadrants in Washington and then across the bridge into Virginia for a bit as well. I call […]
